Do something each day that SCARES you?? What the heck for, you might ask? Being scared… isn’t that something to avoid at all costs? Isn’t that what you shield children from, the thing that causes angst and fear?
I once heard radio psychologist, Dr. Laura Schlessinger snap at a woman in the middle of explaining something that made her “feel uncomfortable.” “What’s WRONG with feeling uncomfortable?” she demanded to know. That was probably two decades ago and I still appreciate the message… what IS wrong with it?
Now, before you think I’m that rock climber who loses an arm and keeps climbing, no way. Nor am I the deep sea diver who wrestles sharks (although I did go shark-feeding, cage-free in Bora Bora). I do scary things like start businesses and buy foreclosed commercial buildings and give speeches. I’ve bungee jumped. Slid down a glacier on my butt. Touristy things… camel rides. Elephant feeding.
But what I did at Rancho La Puerta last week might scare the begeezus out of you. My sister, Gretch wouldn’t do it. In fact, only seven of us did it, out of about 100 guests that week.
A little background: My sister and I were at the Ranch this past week because I was making a presentation. If you’ve been to the Ranch, you know there’s always something to do. You could literally spend every waking moment moving and doing. But, you can also do nothing. And in fact, that’s a wise thing, as well.
Gretch’s yoga tote is imprinted with this message, “Do Something Each Day That Scares You.” (That’s ME doing rope yoga, above, BTW) And as I looked back on the week, I noticed how many of the guests really DID do scary things. Nancy hiked up a mountain one cold, dark morning. Diana traveled solo for the first time since her husband’s death. Gwen danced the Green Chakra Dance. Most of us sampled sessions that folks back home might judge as woo-woo (as in, New Age-y). Gretch and I LOVED our daily Sound Healing Sessions. The men were there, too.
But I decided to do one especially scary thing. I attended the silent dinner. A tableful of guests ate in total silence. Not hand-signaling or giggling, either. Just quiet, alone with our food. I noticed how crisp the jicama was in the salad and that it took careful slicing to not shoot it across the table. I enjoyed seeing several different types type of seeds on that salad. The soup’s creaminess was not cream but a silky blended texture. And the guava in a warm custardy dessert was a flavor I slowly savored but still cannot describe. We started at 6:15 PM. We ended at 7:45 PM. Occasionally catching the eye of a fellow diner. Smiling. Great experience. And while I DID start the meal thinking (to myself, obviously), OH MAN WHAT DID I GET MYSELF INTO??, it turned out to be a valuable mindful experience, aka “scary” mastered.
Rancho La Puerta is a 3000-acre health and fitness spa just over the California border in Tecate, Mexico. Safe, serene, relaxing as well as uber-active. I hiked, did yoga (love the ROPE YOGA, I am now an inch taller, I think), danced, took seminars, had stretch and posture classes, walked a labyrinth, soaked in hot tubs, steamed and sauna’d. Even played games, read a little and watched movies. Gretch did all the above and fell in love with the sculpture courses (her work-in-progress is below, stunning). The Ranch is open year ‘round. Many guests travel there solo, too. www.RanchoLaPuerta.com